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A year of challenging violence against women and girls: 2017-18

From the 25th November (the International Day for the Elimination of All Forms of Violence Against Women and Girls) and the 10th December (Human Rights Day), groups around the world commit to 16 days of action to end gender-based violence. But work to keep women safe from men’s violence continues all year round. This year, during #16Days, the organisations in Nottingham who provide specialist domestic and sexual violence services look back together on some recent hard-won successes. Here’s what we’ve achieved over the past year that help keep women safer in Nottingham and Nottinghamshire.
 

Nottinghamshire’s Misogyny Hate Crime policy to be debated for national rollout

This year, Nottingham Women’s Centre’s Misogyny Hate Crime campaign celebrated its biggest milestone in its movement towards national rollout. Following on from the flagship work in Nottinghamshire by Nottingham Women’s Centre and Nottinghamshire Police, Labour MP Stella Creasy called for the introduction of misogyny as a motivating factor in relation to the ‘Upskirting’ Bill. Whilst ministers decided that this wasn’t the right vehicle for seeking such a change, they announced that they would fund a Law Commission review into how sex and gender characteristics should be considered under hate crime law, and whether new offences (notably, Misogyny Hate Crime) are needed. This is a hugely exciting national statement against misogyny, and Nottingham Women’s Centre are extremely proud to have been part of setting the bar high in Nottingham.

Find out more: http://www.nottinghamwomenscentre.com/misogyny/misogyny-hate-crime-policy/

 

There was a large increase in the number of survivors of domestic abuse accessing support

Women’s Aid Integrated Services (WAIS) directly supported 6,189 women in 2017-2018. That’s a 22% increase on the number of women WAIS supported the year before. Although on the surface increasing call rates may seem to signify a rise in domestic abuse incidents, this is far from the truth. Under-reporting of domestic and sexual violence is one of the most prominent problems due to the wide-ranging number of barriers survivors face in disclosing. The local increase in calls speaks as a reassuring tribute to the local sector’s progress in reaching, signposting and empowering more and more survivors to speak out.

Find out more: https://wais.org.uk/

 

#TimesUpNotts was launched to tackle sexual harassment in the workplace

2018 has marked the year of ‘Time’s Up’: a global, women-led movement that is working to end sexual harassment in the workplace. It is a movement born from the Weinstein effect and #MeToo. Amidst this powerful feminist outcry for change, Nottingham Women’s Centre founded the #TimesUpNotts Network to support women to tackle sexual harassment in the workplace in Nottinghamshire. This network consists of key volunteers from a range of backgrounds who have united to develop solutions to this issue.

#TimesUpNotts has organised its launch event for Saturday 24th November. The objective of the event was to facilitate a conversation with women around the challenges and solutions of tackling sexual harassment at work. Going forward, the network will use women’s voices to inform the development of its trainings and resources for workplaces.

Find out more: https://www.facebook.com/timesupnotts

 

New services were funded for survivors of rape and sexual violence

Notts SVS Services are delighted to have been awarded further funding to secure and enhance their Independent Sexual Violence Advisor (ISVA) Service and Survivors’ Support Service. The two services are of key importance to survivors, helping them to access the Criminal Justice System and the Notts SVSS’s Survivors’ Support Service. This service supports those who have experienced institutional child sexual abuse, including those who are sharing their experiences with the IICSA Truth Project.

The new funding means that there will be:

  • An increased number of ISVAs working with adult survivors in Nottingham/shire.
  • A dedicated Survivors Support Worker to support adults affected by Institutional Child Sexual Abuse.
  • A new exciting opportunity for Volunteer Support Workers to join the ISVA team.

Find out more: https://nottssvss.org.uk/funding-secured-for-two-services/

 

Nottingham men took a stand against men’s violence against women

Having taken a pledge to never use, excuse or remain silent about violence against women, this action was in aid of the male-led White Ribbon Campaign against all forms of men’s violence against women. Coordinated by Equation, local men now gather year on year during 16 days to promote women’s safety to other men through handing out white ribbons, statistics and information on how to help female friends at City Centre tram and bus stops.

Councillor Toby Neal, Portfolio Holder for Community Protection at Nottingham City Council, said: “It is the responsibility of every man and woman to take a stand to end violence against women. No woman should ever be made to feel afraid, intimidated or threatened. I would like to encourage anyone suffering from this type of behaviour to come forward. Nottingham City Council will treat any report extremely seriously and ensure support services are available to help those in need.”

Find out more: equation.org.uk/menagainstviolence/

 

The ‘No More Rape Myths’ Campaign was launched

We know that the way the media covers sexual violence and their use of ‘rape myths’ can have a direct impact on the general public’s perception and understanding of rape and sexual violence. In March 2018, Notts SVS Services launched a new social media campaign @NoMoreRapeMyths to directly challenge poor reporting and press for wider change, whilst also recognising good media coverage on this issue.

Early statistics from the reports we covered showed that:

  • 41% of the articles minimised rape as ‘sex’; with 89% of these being about attacks on children.
  • only two articles from the first 22 included support information.

The campaign is already making an impact; we have advised IPSO (Independent Press Standards Organisation) on the development of their leaflet for survivors and are conversing with them regularly about concerning articles.

Find out more: https://nottssvss.org.uk/no-more-rape-myths/

 

Survivors influenced key domestic abuse policy changes

A group of WAIS survivors met with the Victim’s Commissioner, Baroness Newlove, in April 2018, which led her to make 14 recommendations to transform the government’s response to domestic abuse. Her recommendations include that high risk domestic abuse offenders be placed on a ‘Domestic Abuse Register’ and that where a perpetrator has been convicted of a domestic abuse offence, the presumption of shared parenting to be reversed.

Find out more: https://wais.org.uk/

 

Prevention work with children and young people being expanded in Nottinghamshire County

Local charity Equation has recently received funding from the National Lottery’s Reaching Communities Fund to deliver 12 domestic abuse prevention projects across 6 secondary schools in Nottinghamshire over the next 5 years. At any time, 1 in 10 children are living with abuse with 16-18 year olds being most at risk, making work with this age group particularly crucial. The projects are designed to raise awareness of domestic abuse, curb the development of abusive behaviours, build young people’s aspirations for their own relationships, as well as develop their resilience, confidence and self-esteem in order to best equip them for the choices they face in their formative years.

Find out more: equation.org.uk/young-people/

 

Tender was successful to provide support at the Children and Young People’s SARC

In April 2018, the Sexual Assault Referral Centre (SARC) provision changed across Nottinghamshire, with one SARC providing support for children and young people and the Topaz Centre assisting adults.

Notts SVS Services worked collaboratively with other organisations to tender for the provision of the East Midlands Children and Young People’s Sexual Assault Services (EMCYPSAS). The tender was successful and now trained and experienced staff provide Crisis Worker support in this new provision, helping young people feel reassured after an assault and during forensic medical examinations.

Notts SVSS also provide Therapeutic Support Worker provision to young people aged 13 and above who’ve attended the EMCYPSAS. This service offers non-judgemental and affirming support, with referral pathways into other services, ensuring young survivors are supported following an assault.

Find out more: https://nottssvss.org.uk/sarc-provision-nottingham-changed/

 

The Misogyny Hate Crime impact evaluation report launched showing overwhelming public support for policy

In collaboration with the University of Nottingham and Nottingham Trent University, July marked the launch of Nottingham Women’s Centre’s Misogyny Hate Crime impact evaluation report, making national headlines. Over 87% of people surveyed thought that classing misogyny as a hate crime in Nottinghamshire was a good idea. The report also highlighted the extent of misogynistic hate incidents in the everyday lives of Nottinghamshire women but suggests that the policy has effectively worked to empower women to report.

Of the 679 participants in the evaluation, 93.7% had experienced or witnessed street harassment in Nottinghamshire, including unwanted sexual advances (48.9%), groping (46.2%), sexually explicit language (54.3%) and indecent exposure (25.9%). Yet due to the on-going work of this project and its collaboration with Nottinghamshire Police, of those who reported, 75% had a positive experience and 100% would report again.

Find out more: http://www.nottinghamwomenscentre.com/press-release-9-07-2018-overwhelming-public-support-for-misogyny-hate-crime-policy/

 

Ground-breaking work with women who have complex needs was celebrated nationally

WAIS’s ground-breaking work with women who have complex needs relating to drug, alcohol and mental health needs was nationally celebrated at both the Women’s’ Aid national conference and Welsh Women’s Aid conference. WAIS’s Response to Complexity work also fed into the All Party Parliamentary Group on Complex Needs.

Find out more: https://wais.org.uk/

 

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Top Lad or Toxic Stereotype? The Hits and Misses of Hollywood’s Male Role Models

In the run-up to International Men’s Day, where men are encouraged to come forth and discuss their gender, relationship dynamics, and talk about what it means to be a man in 2018, looking backward — and forward — at what masculinity means in Hollywood is a useful exercise. The past is littered with examples of how not to behave: Steve McQueen slapping his (real) wife Ali Macgraw in The Getaway, or Han Solo’s casual sexual harassment of Princess Leia in Star Wars 

The traditional movie hero – particularly the one that many of our grandfathers or fathers will have admired – has a very particular brand of masculinity, even machismo. From James Bond to this year’s Deadpool 2, where women characters are casually killed off to advance the story, women are too often collateral damage for these men to advance their own stories. ‘Toxic’ male protagonists are often aggressive, violent, and/or sexually predatory. They may be dressed up in a nice suit or carrying a cool gadget, but a la Connery in Goldfinger, it dismisses women as lesser beings and slaps them on the ass as they leave the room.  

It’s true that many of the buzzwords and phrases that fly around the internet and colour cultural commentary can be off-putting to casual readers. ‘Toxic masculinity’ is probably one of those phrases: picking up on its exact meaning is unique to each person. But to define it in a cinematic sense, you might say that it’s: decorative female leads treated with casual disdain; ‘romantic stalking’; the idea that ‘might is right’ and dominance or aggression must win the day; that men can womanise, act terribly, and be thought of as ‘antiheroes’, while female characters would be detested for the same behaviour.  

Beyond onscreen representation, toxic masculinity is also rampant in the structure and edifice of Hollywood itself; women are still regularly treated as sex object and  paid less than men. Coming forward with their stories of sexual assault and exploitation by powerful, megalomaniacal men like Harvey Weinstein has proven difficult until the recent wellspring of #MeToo and #TimesUp over the past twelve months. But along with those movements, there have been some onscreen shifts. Aside from the vital calls for gender parity in female directors and in encouraging telling women’s stories, the portrayal of men and what a male hero should be is also changing.   

The truth is, there are some increasingly complex portrayals of heroic men in Hollywood these days. Take the entire career of Dwayne ‘The Rock’ Johnson, in which he has rarely – if ever – been a perpetrator of sexist or stupidly macho behaviour, unless he’s playing an out-and-out villain. The reason I use him as an example is because, on the face of it, that might seem unlikely. Johnson is an A-list ex-pro wrestler whose enormous size and toughness are used in much the same way that Arnold Schwarzenegger’s once were, and his starring roles as a brawny action hero of films like The Fast and the Furious franchise would seem to lend themselves to the label of ‘toxic masculinity’. Yet Johnson is self-deprecating, kind and unthreatening — while never sacrificing his traditional ‘manliness’ onscreen.  

In some recent comedies, things have also been looking up. Take Will Ferrell and Mark Wahlberg in silly family comedy Daddy’s Home, where two men childishly compete with each other for the affections of their kids and wife (ex, in the case of Wahlberg) only to take on cheerful co-parenting duties where the family gets to keep both fathers in their lives.  

When the Marvel Universe comes into the discussion, it’s worth saying that it’s a surprisingly fair-minded franchise. But MCU male superheroes still far outnumber female ones, and Tony Stark (Robert Downey Jr) is allowed to be far more obnoxious than any woman Avenger would dare to be, for fear of losing the audience. Maybe with the upcoming release of next year’s Captain Marvel, starring Brie Larson, this gender imbalance will begin to shift.  

But there have been paradigm-shifting superheroes too, like the hangdog everyman Paul Rudd in his role as the comical Ant-Man. In this year’s sequel Ant-Man and the Wasp, he continues in the vein of the harmless and funny hero who uses his power to shrink himself and outwit the enemy. He hasn’t got super-strength or magical abilities, but he’s a man whos willing to – literally – reduce himself to get what he wants. No wonder he seems humble!

When it comes to toxic masculinity on our screens this year, smash-hit Black Panther offered a complete antidote. Chadwick Boseman’s character T’Challa comes from Wakanda, a highly-advanced matriarchal society where its warriors are women. Lupita Nyong’o, Angela Bassett, and Letitia Wright play T’Challa’s love interest, mother, and sister respectively, and yet each of them are fully fleshed-out personalities who never exist solely to prop up their leading man. They are warriors, tech geniuses, and wise queens, with a fierce sense of honour.  T’Challa is shown to be deeply respectful of women, leaning on them for partnership, advice, and friendship with an attitude of total equality. Revolutionary on both race and gender fronts, Black Panther is an excellent example of the way forward in terms of mainstream success and progressive ideas of manhood.   

Nonetheless, retrograde ideas about violence and male strength are still omnipresent in most of the aforementioned films, and it will take a while before gendered differences are not coded in this way. At least, for now, male leads who are abusive to women seem less and less acceptable, or even existent. With holidays like International Men’s Day and increasing calls for gender equality in the film industry, hopefully a spotlight will be shone on why toxic masculinity in cinema needs to become a thing of the past.  

 

 

 

 

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We’re Hiring: Domestic Abuse Support Service for Men Coordinator

This is an exciting opportunity to join Equation, a Nottinghamshire-based, award-winning and innovative charity dedicated to preventing and responding to domestic abuse.  

This successful candidate will manage a team of 2 domestic abuse support workers and an IDVA to support men across Nottingham City and County who are experiencing domestic abuse and stalking. The Coordinator will be responsible for ensuring a high quality, best practice, survivor focused support service and will develop the reach of our work by effectively promoting the service to referrers and survivors.  

The successful candidate will be joining the charity during an exciting period of growth and will be able to play a role in shaping the future direction of the Domestic Abuse Service for Men.  

Role Details

 

Working hours: 18 hrs per week 

Working terms: Fixed term contract for 12 months. May be extended subject to funding. 

Salary: Scale Point 31, £27,123 Pro-Rata. 

 

How to apply:

Applications deadline: 19/11/18 9am 

Interviews: TBC

Domestic Abuse Support Service for Men Coordinator Role Description 

Domestic Abuse Support Service for Men Coordinator Person Spec

Domestic Abuse Support Service for Men Coordinator Application Form

Equation Vision, Mission and Values

Email your application to admin@equation.org.uk .

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We’re Hiring: Training Project Worker

Equation is looking for an enthusiastic Training Project Worker to work in partnership with our Training team. This is a fantastic role for someone who is passionate about domestic abuse prevention and awareness raising.  You will be responsible for co-delivering Equation’s reputable training to professionals and community groups on a range of issues relating to domestic and sexual abuse across Nottingham and Nottinghamshire. You will have a strong working knowledge of domestic abuse and will be proficient at communicating training content to a high standard. 

 

Role Details

Working hours: 18.5 hrs per week  

Working terms: Fixed term contract for 12 months. May be extended subject to funding.(Can be available as a term time contract). 

Salary: £20,253 Pro-Rata. 

 

How to apply:

Applications deadline: 19-11-18, 9am 

Interviews: 27-11-18 

Training Project Worker Role Description

Training Project Worker Person Spec

Training Project Worker Application Form

Equation Vision, Mission and Values

Email your application to admin@equation.org.uk . 

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We’re Hiring: Training Facilitator (Freelance)

Equation is looking for enthusiastic freelance trainers to work in partnership with our Training Coordinator. This is a fantastic role for someone who is passionate about domestic abuse prevention and awareness raising.  

As a freelance trainer, you will be responsible for co-delivering Equation’s reputable training to professionals and community groups across Nottingham and Nottinghamshire on a range of issues relating to domestic and sexual abuse.  

You will have a strong working knowledge of domestic abuse and be proficient at communicating training content to a high standard. 

 

Role Details

 Working hours: Variable predominantly during office hours 

Working terms: The role is offered on a self-employed basis 

Sessional Rate: £123.25 – £278.88 per full-day training session 

 

How to apply:

Applications deadline: 19-11-18, 9am 

Interviews: 28-11-18 

Training Facilitator Role Description

Training Facilitator Person Spec

Training Facilitator Application Form

Equation Vision, Mission and Values

Email your application to admin@equation.org.uk .

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We’re Hiring: Reflective Practice Facilitator (Freelance)

Equation is looking for skilled freelance workers to join our expanding Reflective Practice team. This role’s primary duties are to deliver group reflective practice sessions to professionals to assist them in their professional development and to promote and maintain resilience and well-being.   

 

Role Details

Working hours: Variable predominantly during office hours 

Working terms: The role is offered on a self-employed basis 

Sessional Rate:  £25 per hour (average session 3 hrs) 

 

How to apply

Applications deadline: 12-11-18 – 9am 

Interviews: 21-11-18 

Reflective Practise Facilitator Role Profile 

Reflective Practise Facilitator Person Spec

Reflective Practise Facilitator Application Form

Equation Vision, Mission and Values

Email your application to admin@equation.org.uk .

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Equation Receives £9k of Funding to Reach More Male Survivors

Equation have been awarded £9852 of National Lottery funding for a campaign that will encourage local men experiencing domestic abuse to seek support. The charity, which runs the local domestic abuse helpline for men, hopes that the campaign will help break down barriers faced by male survivors which may prevent them accessing support services.

Domestic abuse of men has gained more publicity following global movements relating to the wider issues of domestic and sexual violence, in addition to high-profile media coverage of prosecutions in cases of domestic violence towards men. Despite the increase in publicity, there are still many male survivors who don’t know how or where to seek support.

The helpline’s manager says that “Attitudes about masculinity can lead men to believe that speaking out about domestic abuse will make them appear weak. We want our campaign to challenge those attitudes and better represent men’s experiences to ensure male survivors feel less isolated and more supported in seeking support.”

Anyone can experience domestic abuse and everyone’s experiences are different. According to local statistics, men are more likely to experience domestic abuse from other men and the types of abuse they experience are more often psychological and emotional. However, this does not mean men’s experiences are any less valid. These forms of abuse can cause significant harm and have long-lasting effects on mental health and well-being. Survivors can experience depression, anxiety, substance misuse problems and may complete self-harm or suicide.

As well as running the local service for male survivors, Equation also work to prevent domestic abuse and reduce the harm it causes through educating the whole community. The charity, whose goal is for everyone to have equal relationships free from abuse, has a strong background in campaigning about domestic abuse and gender equality with their award winning campaigns Help A Friend and Reel Equality Film Club. It will be exciting to see how this new campaign can replicate their previous successes.

Men experiencing domestic abuse can access equation’s domestic abuse service for men on 0115 960 5556

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Nottingham’s First RSE day | 28th June 2018

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Earlier this year the Department for Education set out their plans to make Relationships and Sex Education (RSE) compulsory in all schools from 2019. Primary schools will need to ensure they offer relationships education to their pupils and secondary schools will be required to deliver both relationships and sex education.  In announcing these plans, the government has acknowledged the benefits of RSE both to children and wider society, particularly with reference to the prevention of domestic abuse. The plans have been received as a welcome development by many, including schools where this education is already being delivered and the positive impact can be seen. Many schools already offer RSE with many doing it well. The new reforms intend to ensure that all children and young people have the same access to a universal provision.

Equation was delighted when Nottingham City announced its first annual RSE day which will take place later this month on the 28th June 2018. This is the first day of its kind and we are looking forward to supporting schools in Nottingham by delivering workshops, providing posters and resources and delivering teacher training. Equation have been delivering domestic abuse awareness and healthy relationship education to young people in schools across Nottingham City and Nottinghamshire via our Equate Package for many years and are big believers in the following five outcomes our projects and other good quality RSE can provide.  

 

1) Increased Understanding of Relationships

RSE is vital in ensuring all young people have the opportunity to explore and learn about healthy relationships. RSE projects allow them to fully understand what relationships are, who they have them with and what the qualities of a healthy relationship look like. If young people have access to well-designed RSE they can begin to explore what relationships mean to them, what they consider to be important in a relationship, and what they themselves can offer in their own existing and future relationships.

2) Heightened Aspirations

Young people accessing relationships education will increase their aspirations for a healthy relationship, and this reduces their vulnerabilities to experiencing an unhealthy relationship. Young people will be able to recognise the warning signs of unhealthy relationships more readily. This is something that can otherwise be difficult for young people, as well as adults who did not receive relationships education. Recognising the signs of an unhealthy relationship is likely to increase their confidence that they deserve better, and encourage them to seek support.

3) Improved Confidence and Self-esteem

Young people are much more likely to have healthy, positive relationships when they have high levels of confidence and self-esteem. Relationships and sex education should not overlook the importance of ensuring young people understand positive coping strategies, know what they can do to make themselves feel good and how to support others to increase their own confidence. If a young person has low self-esteem they might feel that they need to have an intimate relationship to make themselves happy; this can lead to unrealistic expectations of the relationship and the young person may not be as happy as they expected. Encouraging young people to be comfortable with who they are before they begin a relationship can have a positive impact on the relationships of young people. It is important that young people know how to love themselves, know their self-worth and know that they and others deserve to be happy.

4) Better Understanding of Consent

Alongside healthy relationships education, young people also need to be able to access information about sex and consent. This is why Equation delivers sessions to young people on personal space. These sessions allow the young people to explore their rights and responsibilities over their own and other people’s bodies, the complexities of sex and consent and to develop a clear understanding of the legalities of consent. Young people often feed back to Equation after these sessions that they didn’t know about consent before; they want information to make free and informed decisions within relationships.

5) Prevention of Domestic Abuse

1 in 4 women experience domestic abuse at some point in their lives. By understanding more about relationships, young people become better equipped to identify when things are not right and feel more confident and supported in speaking out. RSE education increases the chances a child will know where to go for help and support should they ever need it. Even in instances where domestic abuse is not able to be fully prevented via RSE (for example, if it is already occurring within the child’s home), the harm it can cause can be significantly reduced.

 

Want to know more about how to get involved in Nottingham’s first RSE day as either a school, parent or organisation? Visit the Equation website for full details.

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Equation is Hiring A Campaigns Coordinator

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Campaigns Coordinator

(Revised July 2018)

Hours: 22.5 hours per week (flexible)

Contract: Fixed Term 12 months, may be extended (subject to funding)

Salary: Equation Scale 6 – SO1, Starting salary £22,937 pro rata 

Equation is a charity whose vision is for everyone to have equal, healthy relationships, in a society free from domestic abuse, sexual violence and gender inequality. As well as work with young people and community professionals, we run award-winning public awareness campaigns in Nottingham and Nottinghamshire that help to prevent abuse and promote survivor safety, such as the Reel Equality Film Club and Help A Friend campaigns. We are looking for an exceptional Campaigns Coordinator to join our small and proactive charitable team. Your role will be to design and deliver all of Equation’s social marketing campaigns work using digital tools, print media and events, and oversee the development and distribution of all our awareness resources.

The successful candidate will be a skilled communicator with a flair for writing and an eye for design, adept at both print and digital marketing and motivated by a passion for gender equality and women’s rights. You will be able to juggle targets and priorities calmly, work easily in partnership and also thrive working on both ideas and detail as a one-person band.

Application Deadline: 9.00am, Monday 13th August

Interview: Wednesday 22nd August. (flexibility available if the candidate is on holiday)

Campaigns Coordinator Job Description (Revised July 2018)

Campaigns Coordinator Person Specification (Revised July 2018)

Equation’s Vision, Mission and Values

Application Form

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How to Spot the Signs of a Friend in Trouble

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Good friends are everything. But sometimes our closest friends can be suffering in silence. If you spot any of these warning signs, your friend may be experiencing domestic abuse in their relationship. #HelpAFriend. Learn the signs.

Control

Does your friend’s partner call and text her all the time? Does it ever seem like they’re checking up on her?

Isolation

Have you noticed you get to see your friend less and less, and that she’s also seeing less of her other friends and family? Maybe she seems to make excuses about why she can’t meet up, or you get the sense that your  friend’s partner is taking over her life.

Manipulation

Does it ever seem like your friend won’t make a decision without checking with her partner first? Does she often seem worried about her partner’s reaction?

Pressure

Have you noticed that your friend is behaving out of character – e.g. dressing, acting, or speaking differently? Do you think she may ever feel pressured by her partner to look or behave in a certain way?

Jealousy

Does your friend change her behaviour to avoid accusations of cheating from her partner? Does it seem like her partner is often jealous for little reason?

Fear

Have you noticed your friend treading on eggshells to avoid rowing with her partner? Have you ever got the sense that your friend is a bit afraid of them?

If you are worried about your friend’s relationship, trust your instincts.

Call the 24-hour free local domestic abuse helpline and find out how you can help her.

0808 800 0340

If you can’t get through, use the answerphone. All messages will be answered.

The helpline is run by Women’s Aid Integrated Services. Find out more at wais.org.uk

Find out more about the #HelpAFriend Campaign at equation.org.uk/helpafriendcampaign

#HelpAFriend is kindly funded by Nottingham Crime and Drugs Partnership, Nottinghamshire Police and Crime Commissioner, the Home Office and the People’s Postcode Trust

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